Psychiatrists do not usually examine the brains of the people they claim to be treating. No other medical profession refrains from examining the organs they treat. Basically, psychiatrists are just guessing at what could be wrong and also guessing at the drugs and doses. Brain scans very often reveal a very different story, such as brain trauma, cysts, damage from drugs, etc. These can be healed, and the person cured. This is a breath of common sense, and it is based on Dr Amen’s examination of 83,000 brains. That damaged brains can heal, is cause for hope, indeed.
Amongst other great insights, Dr. Amen reveals the real reason to avoid drugs and psychedellics — they damage the brain. See the brain scan of a drug-damaged brain, below:
Or the Brain Scan of a teenage girl diagnosed with ADHD, failing in school, fighting with her parents, and cutting herself. Her brain was greatly rehabilitated and probably went on to further healing. See below:
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How does one forgive? We were not taught how to do this. I need to forgive a grandfather who molested and raped myself and my sisters..a mother who beat us daily..grandfather died and mother…their not around so we can breathe relief…is that forgiveness??
Unfortunately, most people who have mental health issues have suffered some kind of trauma. Forgiving is not for the other person, it is to set yourself free. Hatred, resentment, and victimization binds you to that person forever. Below are some ways of releasing that hatred and resentment:
What you have gone through is horrific but as you point out, the perpetrators are no-longer here. So, who is causing your continued pain?
It’s you – replaying those memories in your head and victimizing yourself in so doing. This may be difficult to wrap your head around at first but our minds are powerful. An important discovery is that our minds cannot distinguish between what we imagine, what we remember, and the real thing.
This opens up possibilities for us to manipulate and manage the effects of our traumas.
Additionally, our memories are faulty. It seems that we just make things up and believe them, thus people who have gone through the same event remember it differently, and therefore react and are affected differently. While one sibling may be traumatized, the other merely shrugs off the event due to the way they reframed the event, or remember/ misremember the event.
This gives us an opportunity. Visualizing and replaying a monstrous event over and over in your head just embeds it, its negative effects, and trauma into your psyche. If our memories are faulty anyway, we might as well believe a version of the story that gives us some kind of comfort. Try to reframe your trauma in a context that makes it easier for you to live with.
Jordan Peterson mentions a case where one of his patients related her story of being molested by an older perpetrator when she was four. He thought the perpetrator was at least an adolescent but it turned out the perpetrator was six years old. Her memory had continued to haunt her, whereas in perspective, the issue was just two badly supervised kids.
This is not to diminish what you have gone through, merely to urge you to reframe the event in a way that will give you relief.
Seek a way to reframe the event in terms that help you forgive, so you can let go and move on.
One method is to imagine different scenarios, for instance, one woman suffered abandonment issues because her father had left her and her mother to go to America. When she understood that it caused him as much pain as her to leave, and that he was trying to create a better life for her and her mother, she overcame her abandonment issues. She fixed a picture in her mind of him holding back tears as he said “goodbye” at the airport, and focused on his words that he would send for them soon. Accompanied by her adult understanding of what he was in fact doing, she released her child-self from its feelings of abandonment. In this case, this was the true perspective , but you don’t have to accept unpleasant and painful, past experiences.
Sometimes, we can replay the situation according to how we would have liked it to unfold, for instance, realize that you are now an adult — a powerful adult — and would never fall victim to that again. You could imagine your adult self coming to the rescue of your child self, and beating up that perpetrator, or reporting him to the police, and having him punished as befits his behavior. It is almost as though you rescue your child self in time and space.
Alternatively, you can visualize the room where the act was committed and see yourself chopping up or tearing apart everything in the room, if that will help to vent your rage. You could then imagine burning down the whole thing. Then visualize yourself going to a nearby waterfall, and washing yourself clean. That would be symbolic of washing that traumatic event out of your consciousness as you do so, leaving you whole and healed.
Sometimes (and it might be true) you can gain some understanding and compassion for your perpetrator, because he was very likely
subjecting you to what had been done to him. He may also have been a victim. This would better enable you to forgive him.
Visualize whatever makes you feel better about yourself and the event. This is healing, as opposed to replaying a traumatic event over and over again and reliving that trauma.
Check out our section on Alternative Views & Resources, especially the manual and a workbook and videos on the EMOTIONAL FREEDOM TECHNIQUE, and also Faster EFT . https://grapevinecenter.org/alternative-views-resources/eft/
Good Luck! I hope this helps you to heal.